Moms are allowed to have fun too!
I have the best job in the world. No, it’s not the one that gives me a weekly paycheck. In fact I don’t make any money at all for this job. It’s being a mom. I have two awesome kids and I wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world. I get paid in hugs and kisses and love every minute of it. However, I do need to take a break every once in awhile. I cherish my “ME” time as much as I cherish the time I spend with my kids. I recognize that I am a better mother because of the time I take to concentrate on myself.
I recently heard from a friend (who does not yet have children) that she was basically ridiculed for not wanting to be a stay at home mom. She was told by another woman that she was not going to be a good mom because she planned on being a working mom. I was in shock to hear this. First of all, how could another woman put down another without knowing what she is going through in her life. Next, my friend doesn’t even have children yet. This woman already tried to make her feel like a bad mom and she hasn’t even had the chance to enjoy being pregnant and giving birth. She made my friend second guess herself for a minute. Any mom knows how many times we wonder if what we are doing is right. We don’t need any help from the “peanut gallery”. My friend is happiest when she is working. She enjoys being busy and loves her job. She is one of the few lucky people who work in an industry that they love. Besides, what she feels now could change when she has children.
I would LOVE to be a stay at home but unfortunately, it’s not a possibility for me at the moment. Does it make me a bad mom because I am back to work? Wouldn’t it make me a very good mom knowing that my working is keeping a roof over our heads and putting food on our table?!?
As with any job, it’s important to take some time off. I am not saying you have to leave your family for a weeks vacation, but taking an hour to take of care yourself is necessity. It is especially important for us sleep deprived moms to take time. I know when I am really tired, I am less patient and easily irritated. Taking time for a mani and pedi or even just a hot bath can be invigorating. I enjoy going out with the girls and having a glass of wine. Ever hear the song Girls Just Wanna Have Fun? I think someone should make one called Moms Just Wanna Have Fun. The mini vacations I take from the best job I ever had are what keep me sane. My relationship with my hubby and kids relies on these little outings. After all a happy mama makes for a happy family. So I ask everyone to not judge another for wanting some alone time, to be a working mom or having a fun ladies night out. Why should kids have all the fun? Moms are allowed to have fun too!