Mommy, you’re so skinny

My five year old told me that I looked pregnant yesterday.

I said, “NO!” and inside I felt like crying, because of all of my struggles with weight loss – or better put, my lack of weight loss.  Outside I laughed and told him he was being silly. He was really cute.

About an hour later we were getting ready for bed and I told my husband that Andreas had told me that I looked pregnant. We shared a laugh.

Andreas then proceeded to touch my belly, rub it up and down and say, “Mommy you’re so skinny!”

I couldn’t help myself. I burst out laughing. It was so funny and very unexpected.  He then said it over and over again for about 10 minutes along with great big giggles. I have to admit it did wonders for my mood. But a part of me started to worry a little bit.

We don’t use the words skinny or fat in this house. I do my best at keeping my weight issues between my adult friends and I. I never discuss them around my kids. This I can guarantee. My weight issues have no place in my children’s lives.

I worry, because I don’t keep my son in a bubble, that all I’ve been doing at home to protect him from the ‘baddies’ is all out the window now that he’s nearing grade one. He’s exposed to kids from different families who have different values and views on things. He’s exposed to kids who say things like “you’re stupid”, “I hate you” and my personal favourite  “you’re a booger”.

These are words that are not used around the kids in our house (booger is ok but only in the right context). They are only uttered when Nick or I are coming down the stairs after 8pm:

“That freaking booger kid of yours took me ages to put to bed. It’s so stupid that it took an hour to get them to sleep. I hate our bedtime routine.” HA!

Even though this exposure worries me, I’m glad that my kids can experience it. Diversity is important and exposure will only help them decide who they want to be in life. Hopefully all of the effort put into keeping things ‘clean’ around here will lead to well-rounded kids who are strong and confident enough to be respectful, not follow the pack, make their own decisions, form their own opinions and stand by them.

Fingers crossed.

  • Alexandria

    We try really hard to deflect the words we think are negative here, too. I worry about my body image issues being absorbed by my daughter, I worry about her dealing with the “mean” words at school, I worry about her exposure to violence… It’s exhausting being the parent of two boogers.

  • Jennifer Gilbert

    Sarah hears all types of stuff at school too, but she knows what is and is not acceptable in our home. She’ll even go as far as tell other kids that “stupid” is a bad word!

    It sounds like you’re doing the right thing by Andreas and he will grow up to be a good man, husband and father!

  • Shannon

    I learned from Dr Phil :) that because there are so many external factors affecting kids today, it’s very important that kids have a standard of behavior for themselves that stems from the home and family, This isnt something they just pick up around the house, but has to be taught and instilled from parents to children. “I dont care if Tommy says ‘stupid’ and ‘idiot’, that’s not how WE speak to people” or “We’re Bryan’s and that’s not how we behave, ever”.
    They grow up with a standard and they operate by it and may even take a little pride in it. As they go through life they recognize poor behavior and can say for their own self that that isn’t in line with what is acceptable and Im not doing it. It may work less as they become teens, but that’s when guilt and conscience will kick in, because for YEARS they’ve known better!!

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