Dads-to-Be Survival Tips
When you’re an expectant daddy you’re up against the world – or so it seems. You’ll be on the roller coaster ride of your life complete with a pregnant, hormonal wife and seemingly endless questions and preparations – not to mention a possible hormonal rollercoaster of your own complete with a bit of weight gain.
Go with the Flow: It’s a proven fact that’s dads-to-be go through some serious changes during their wife’s pregnancy. Dr. Louann Brizendine’s new book, The Male Brain: A Breakthrough Understanding of How Men and Boys Think details the intricate transition that comes as a man turns into a daddy – and that transition begins when your wife becomes pregnant. You may experience mood swings, weight gain, nesting instincts and bonding tendencies; my advice is, sit back and enjoy the ride – as much as you possibly can anyways.
Get a Good Read: As more knowledge and information is being shared about the daddies’ role in pregnancy and beyond, incredible books have been popping up everywhere. Get yourself a good book about what to expect and read on. “Knowledge is power,” as it’s so often said. Knowing what to expect will help you prepare your mind and your body to help you become the most amazing daddy you can be. Trust me, purchasing a good book before your baby arrives is of the utmost importance. If you procrastinate and wait until your wife is about to pop you might not have to learn and prepare yourself for the most glorious 18 years (and then some) of your life.
Be Supportive: If I could tell you a single thing it would be to simply be a “rock” for your pregnant wife and newly expectant mommy. Chances are, she is freaking out too, and for the sake of your soon-to-deliver child and your marriage you should be as positive and supportive as you possibly can. It’s not always easy, but dig deep for yourself and your wife.
Turning into a daddy isn’t as easy as it may appear. There are many components at play working at many levels of change – both mentally and physically. Don’t fret, things will work out on their own time, and once you have your baby in hand you’ll be a wonderful brand new daddy.