Ask Kat: Becoming a SAHM
As the mum of three small boys, an expert in baby products and a no-nonsense parent, resident blogger Kat Armstrong always seems to be called upon by friends, family and strangers to answer tough parenting questions. We thought it was high time she shared this knowledge with you, and her series Ask Kat was born. If you have questions for Kat, you can email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
I recently decided that instead of going back to work, that I’d like to be a stay at home mom! My wife’s income is high enough, that I will be able to do this, at the very least, for a few years. If we have any more children, I’ll be able to care for them full time. I’m very happy about this decision, but I’ve had some push back from family and friends warning me about losing out on my career. How can I tell them to back off?
Congrats! Being a stay at home parent is rewarding and challenging all at once! I find it very silly that we always tell girls and women that they can be whatever they want, but when a woman says she wants to stay at home and parent, she’s told that she shouldn’t do it. I say, go for it! If it makes you happy, and you can afford to, you are a very lucky parent indeed.
I think that if you value your friendships with people questioning your choice, you should have a frank, but kind discussion with them. They may not understand that you feel that parenting is your calling right now, and that you do not want to advance anything other than being a mom. If they still press you on your career, let them know that you haven’t made this decision lightly and you know that you’ll be back a few paces when you do decide to re-enter the workforce.
Parenting full time is the hardest job there is, especially because it’s 24/7 and you don’t get a paycheque for it! Kudos to you for taking on the responsibility, and enjoy the time.