Comments on: Etiquette

By: A.Smith

A.Smith — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 01:19:00 +0000

Ugh – thank you for saying not to bring kids to inappropriate movies. Is there really anything more uncomfortable?

By: Katie Bosman

Katie Bosman — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 20:38:00 +0000

Parents who let their kids act like that in public make people weary of any kids they see in a public place. I get looks already and my daughter is only 6 months old. They change their glares to smiles though when they realize that she is already fairly well behaved in public!

By: samantha

samantha — Fri, 24 Feb 2012 01:02:00 +0000

I totally couldn’t agree more! I have no one to watch my daughter so I often take her out with me, however I do not drink with her (inapropriate if your going to be driving in any way). She is also only 10 months so she isn’t running around yet, but I do have friends with children who have done that and it pains me not to say something! Certainly do I not go out at 8 that’s kids bedtimes! I certainly am already trying to teach my daughter proper manners and how to act in a restaraunt and a dinner table!

By: Karina

Karina — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 03:52:00 +0000

WOW! Impressive how easy it is to judge others. If you think you are absolutely right on your view, why do you post as anonymous?

By: mom

mom — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 16:24:00 +0000

I think that most parent are responsible and try to teach their children good behaviour from bad.
Nobody wants their kids acting out like that but they are kids and they are YOUNG and they are not PERFECT and neither are we.

FIRST, these women were already seated with their children for a some time if she mentioned that they have had a few drinks.
They were in a family restaurant if they allow children. The hour was later and a lot of families due to schedules or lifestyles eat at different hours.

The whole point is that its NONE OF HER BUSINESS!!!!

She should have been thinking of spending QUALITY TIME with her husband. She wanted to have a date night with her husband. Well it seems to me that she ignored him and concentrated more on what was going around with the women and children.

What if you were in the same situation and had settled in for an hour or so and the kids were behaving until someone sat close to you.
You’re a good person (aren’t you?) and you’ve taught your children well but now they are tired and cranky and acting badly.
What if your kids made you look bad what then?
Would WE be thinking the same thing of YOU???

By: Robinfraser

Robinfraser — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 14:39:00 +0000

I hope you don’t get hurt too badly when you fall from your very high horse…

By: Robinfraser

Robinfraser — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 14:33:00 +0000

Essentially I do agree with you regarding appropriate vs inappropriate venues and times to bring your children along and I am personally very aware and considerate of where and when I choose to bring my child. However, when faced with these situations I often try to remember I have no idea what is going on in other people’s lives and although my first instinct is to judge I try to dismiss these thoughts…often easier said then done!

By: Mom of 4

Mom of 4 — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 12:25:00 +0000

WOW! After reading this thread I am very concerned that there are way too many parents who feel that their children should be able to behave in whatever way they wish no matter what the impact it has on other people. It is this very teaching that leads children ro remain “stuck” in what is a completely normal egocentric stage of development for a 3-5 year old long past the point when they should be learning to realize and learn to respect the appropriate wants and needs of others around them. Your child may want to run and scream in a restaurant, and that may not bother you, but that does not mean it is appropriate and failure to teach your children appropriate behaviour in given situations is only setting them up to remain egocentric long past the point that it is developmentally appropriate for them to remain so. As parents it is our job to teach our children. Period. Do we always do it perfectly? I sure as heck don’t but I hope that I try and don’t just offer up the apethetic “kids are kids oh well”.

By: Cat

Cat — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 04:24:00 +0000

I’m not really sure what the seriously if for when generally I agree with what you’re saying and added that taking children out is a good way for you (and maybe I should have said you as a parent) to teach acceptable behaviour. I don’t think myself or anyone else here implied in any way that trying to keep the kids in order is not the appropriate thing to do but you know what, stuff happens and sometimes there is an unruly kid or a meltdown. That doesn’t mean that we should be banned from restaurants because we have kids and maybe can’t get childcare for whatever reason. If you knew me you would know that I am all for discipline and generally agree with your views above, but also know that nobody is perfect and anybody who claims to have perfect kids is delusional. But I am curious….please share with me how you would discipline a generally good natured 8 month old who all of a sudden has a meltdown. Would you try and reason with someone who doesn’t have reasoning skills? Someone who has no idea that they are making a scene but only trying to communicate. No you would either try and calm the situation or get up and leave. If you actually read all the comments and my earlier comment the biggest problem here is someone is basically trying to tell every parent when their children should go to bed, where they should and should not take their children basically telling people (kind of like you) how they should raise their kids. Not every person’s situation is the same and before attacking them, even if not directly, stop and think that maybe they are doing the best they can. You don’t know what happens in their life

By: Danihofmann

Danihofmann — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 01:50:00 +0000

Seriously? PEOPLE JUST BE PARENTS AND DISCIPLINE YOUR KIDS. It’s not always easy, but they need your guidance – or they will grow up to be trouble makers. These are the same people who blame society and teachers for their kids troubled behaviour as they grow up. STOP being “friends” and do the hard part – be a parent. Teach them yourself and don’t expect everyone else to do it for you. They will know how much you love them for doing all that work.