Comments on: Chivalry is dead

By: Maria123

Maria123 — Sun, 01 Jul 2012 02:16:00 +0000

I have a very pregnant shape to my very pregnant belly, and both seated men and women magically close their eyes and fall “asleep” upon viewing my baby bump, when they were previously wide awake. I agree with the author, unfortunately, chilvalry is dead

By: Grantsmom

Grantsmom — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 20:51:00 +0000

Buses in Ottawa have priority seating at the front but believe it or not at 8 months pregnant and being stuck on a bus in a snowstorm for 45 mins. not one person offered, I finally asked somebody, I am pretty shy, just because I was going to pass out. Its not only pregnant woman though, people don’t hold doors for anyone else these days, or help somebody who looks like they are struggling. It would do our world a whole lot of good if people would start showing some respect and compassion for one another.

By: chelleb

chelleb — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 19:32:00 +0000

You know what? I haven’t had that issue yet, but I have NO problem sweetly asking some able-bodied, unencumbered person if I could please have their seat because I am pregnant. Who could say no? =)

By: Claire

Claire — Mon, 23 May 2011 16:25:00 +0000

It sounds like someone else has been hard done. You obviously don’t know that I’ve written numerous articles for Oh Baby Magazine on exercise and pregnancy, am a call person on the exercise and pregnancy phone line for Canada, and have been exercising through out (when they’ve not been high risk) all of my pregnancies. I don’t believe in equal rights, I believe in being humane and compassionate no matter what you are. You obviously didn’t get the gist of the post and you obviously were one of the one’s that didn’t give up a seat or would never give up a seat….a human quality that your parents forgot to pass onto you. To follow up, when you have a “high risk” pregnancy and must still support a family with work then you have no choice but to work. The post was meant to shed light on a pet-peeve of mine that people, obviously like yourself, are less compassionate, selfish and inconsiderate of other people’s situations. Good luck with you!

By: Eszence

Eszence — Fri, 20 May 2011 21:23:00 +0000

I feel for you!! when I was pregnant I had to ride the subway to go down town to the same hospital, during rush hour is the worst…people are so rude down town my gosh they don’t give 2 shits if your pregnant or old..they will walk right into you all over you and bump into you without even saying sorry just rushing away or looking at you like you were in the wrong and now they are even more late for work because of you. I dreaded going to the hospital because of this.. I am pregnant with my second child now and I changed hospitals I will never do that again!!!

By: Skwishee

Skwishee — Fri, 20 May 2011 16:06:00 +0000

Really, it shouldn’t matter if you’re pregnant or “just fat”. If someone is looking like they’re having difficulty – no matter what the reason – they’d probably appreciate a seat.

I remember being offered a seat exactly once on the subway because I was visibly pregnant. I also remember the time, in my 8th month, when I was standing in the packed subway and some guy jabbed me in the belly with the corner of his (quite heavy) laptop case. Not even an apology.

By: Amy

Amy — Fri, 20 May 2011 13:19:00 +0000

This is the reaction from somebody who has never been expecting!! You have no idea how difficult it can be for a pregnant woman to do certain things that she did before she was pregnant. Standing for long periods of time take on a whole new meaning when pregnant. Empathy isn’t your strong point, is it? I completely agree, Scott!

By: Scott

Scott — Fri, 20 May 2011 05:04:00 +0000

Wow, that is unbelievable, and of course you are hiding behind a nameless “guest” post. Equal rights have little to do when you are carrying another human life. I’m guessing you don’t have a significant other in your life that has ever carried a child. I you do I’m guessing that’s why you choose not to use your name.

My wife was greeted with equally deplorable behavior in Toronto “the good” on “the better way” when carrying both of our children even in her 8th month.

City TV tried an “undercover” experiment with a pregnant person on the buses and had great success in having seats offered… amazing how selfless people become when there is a tv camera pointed at them…

You are gem of humanity “guest”

By: Guest

Guest — Fri, 20 May 2011 04:03:00 +0000

Gimme a break women. You can’t scream for equal rights in one breath & then complain because you didn’t get preferential treatment in the next. You must be so hard done by that you can’t stand for 20min. when you’re not even half way through your pregnancy. I bet you’re the same mom that lets the tv be the kids babysitter all day long too. We euthanize pets when they’re old & sick, should we do the same for the elderly?

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 20 May 2011 01:49:00 +0000

I unfortunately had the same experience on the Go train last year. I learned after 5.5 months that the best bet was to get on at the Wheelchair coach and the conductor would make someone give up their seat for me. The rest of my pregnancy on the train was much easier as the regular passengers would see me coming and give up their seat. There were a few times when I was 8 months pregnant and the conductor was still asking for me. It’s a shame to see where humanity has gone.