Crying it out never worked for us
I never attempted the CIO method with my son and it never actually worked with my daughter. This brings us to two kids: one seven and one four, who need their parents in order to fall asleep. Both kids are not great sleepers (surprise!) and they don’t like to sleep alone.
But mostly, I enjoy the cuddles. Recently our routine has changed. My oldest will read in his room alone while I snuggle up with my daughter on her rocky road to dream land. Once she’s asleep, it’s lights out for big brother and I cuddle with him before he drifts off.
Once the lights are off, he tells me EVERYTHING about his day. He asks me questions. We talk about his relationships with other kids in his school. He tells me secrets. I’m not sharing them with you. I pinky promised.
If I didn’t snuggle with my boy before bed, when would we talk about all of this important stuff? We live busy lives. Between work, the kids activities and parenting two kids at different ages and stages there isn’t a lot of time for heart to heart conversations. Our family has dinner together every night and we do our best to talk about our days, but it’s not quite the same.
While some may judge that I am still helping my kids to sleep and while I sometimes think that I could be working or washing dishes, ultimately I am happy that this is our bedtime routine. I cherish the time when the lights are out and I love that my son trusts me to share his deepest and darkest.
In a world where there is so much bullying happening in schools, I’m happy to keep the lines of communication open with my children. Even if the talks all happen in the dark.
One day my son may not want me in his room and until then I pinky promise that his parents love to snuggle with him every night.